Posted on 18 June 2011.
Suck it last week, this week was awesome! Ok, I’m ready to quantify: last week I gained 3 pounds and nearly fell out of my chair. This week I lost 2.4 lbs of that 3 — so I’m more or less back on track! Also, I feel justified in thinking that last week had something to do with water retention XD
Just like last week, I’m feeling good this week. I was more rigid with my tracking, which was a missing ingredient the previous week. It’s always worth remembering: when I track in the MORNING my food for the WHOLE DAY, I am more likely to stick to plan, feel in control and make good decisions.
This week’s meeting topic was eating out, but I’d like to talk briefly about last week’s topic: “me” before & after joining Weight Watchers. In the actual meeting, I was in the wrong mindset — I’d gained, but also there were two members in my meeting who made comments that rather upset me. Every once and a while there are people like that in meetings — in this case the person who makes it clear with comments that they’ve never been really overweight, certainly not obese, and doesn’t have lifelong, deeply ingrained disordered thinking towards food.
The first comment was one that “obese people either don’t care about themselves at all, or are self-centered and don’t think about those around them.” Do you see why that made me see red? A person in a Weight Watchers meeting said this!
But the second comment, which like the first also came from an older woman, really demonstrated for me the generation gap in “dieting” methodology. A grandmother related that her daughter, who is a nutritionist and health nut, doesn’t allow her son (this woman’s grandson) to eat sweets. When the grandmother offers him candy, he says “I can’t eat that.” She offered this method as a way to deal with challenges of eating out and being faced with “bad food.”
Here’s the problem: “I can’t eat that” doesn’t work! When you’re not a five-year-old following mommy’s food rules, it’s maddening to deprive yourself of food. “I can’t eat that” is one of the reasons I have such bizarre and unhealthy “reasoning” about certain food: “I can’t eat that, but I could eat this this other thing instead.” Then I eat that thing. It’s not satisfying. I deny, deny, deny myself — until I go crazy and eat the thing I wanted in the first place, or I eat four times the amount of the substitute as is healthy or needed. You can get fat on hummus, too!
So for me, it really is important to remove the barriers of food guilt and the “can’t have” mentality. Your mother’s/grandmother’s diet doesn’t have to work for you. In fact, I’d argue it doesn’t — we’re fatter than ever, despite decades of “dieting.”